Feelin' The Rain

Wow, I did not expect to be away from the blogging world for such a long time! I posted on my melanoma blog about being under the weather, but I never did update this one. I am back & ready to start writing.

As Mr. Marley suggests, some people feel the rain....I have been feelin' some massive amounts of rain. I don't want to go into the details--some parts of my life I do keep private--but I have allowed myself time to regain strength. Sometimes that is all we need when we are being tested: Time. Now that I have allowed myself that, it is time to get back to what I do best...living!

Adventures to share with you soon...

When I Grow Up...

Lately I have found myself questioning what I want to be when I grow up. In college, I thought I wanted to be a teacher. Then life got crazy and I realized that although I like the idea of teaching, I would not want to be confined in a way that teachers are these days. I admire wonderful teachers, in fact, I would say there are not enough of them; however, I know that it is not the career for me. 

Then I toyed with the idea of attending nursing school. I love being with people, I love knowing that what I do--no matter how small--can make life better for a person...even if it is only for a few minutes. Then I started thinking about my hate for needles, blood, and yuckiness...Nursing is not for me either.

So, what is for me? I love working with the public. I am truly a people person. I enjoy writing--to the point of being unable to sleep until I get certain thoughts written down. I am the girl who reads a book and bookmarks numerous pages that I later go back to ponder. I have a way of making people talk. I am a fairly good listener. I love to hear stories about other people. People fascinate me...Reporter? Oh, I don't know.

I had a few suggestions from my friends about what I should be when I grow up. Want to hear them?



- A dinosaur 
   (I would much rather be the famous giraffe from Toys-R-Us.)

-A Princess

    (What girl doesn't want to be a princess every now and then?)

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-A "bazillionare's wife"

        (Could I survive shopping, eating, working out, and attending charity functions for being my reasons for waking up in the morning? OK....I could probably make it work.....) 

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or...

A Writer

   (Could I do it? I just don't know.)

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I won't know unless I try.

Life Just Ain't Fair Sometimes

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I should be celebrating my good news--No Evidence of Melanoma--but instead I find myself battling with life. Not just my own life, but the lives of those around me I care for. It seems like every day we are hearing about dirty scan results, blood work that changes lives, folks who lose their battles with cancer, jobs lost, houses that burn to the ground, etc. A sweet friend lost her father to cancer this week only months after losing her mother to cancer. Another college friend, a YOUNG new mother, joined us in the Cancer Society this week. My heart aches for my sweet friends and family. 2011 has been very unkind.

I realize things could always be worse--always--and some would argue that we are incredibly blessed. WE ARE. But, we are all struggling right now.

Life...it just ain't fair sometimes.

Grab Your Book!

It is National Book Lovers Day! Did you all find a few minutes to read your latest book? I did! I finished a very interesting book called The Double Blind. It was not only an interesting read, it also had one of the most fabulous endings. My older sister had loaned me the book, so I automatically had to text her and say, "WOW!" I won't give you anymore details than that! 

Books tend to be my teachers. I can read 500 pages of a book and learn more than I did in a semester of college. Unfortunately, no boss will hire me based on all of the books I have read....Minor detail, right?

Back to my love of reading, think about when you hear a song. Isn't there always one particular lyric that just hits home to you? That is what books do for me. I am thinking back on Elizabeth Gilbert's  Eat Pray Love. The book, if you could get through the various boring parts, taught a lot of lessons. Maybe "taught" is the wrong word. Books tend to make you think....They force you to ask yourself the question,s "What would I do? How does that make me feel? Can I relate to that, Remember when?" 

Thinking back on past relationships, I have been my own worst enemy. That is why this passage in Gilbert's book hit home for me: "I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism."Gilbert hit the nail right on the head for me.... I sometimes see the best in people and when their actions go against their good qualities, I become annoyed. I wonder why they are doing such things when I know what they are really like. Silly me...

Now I have grown...I have experienced a god awful relationship, and I have experienced falling in love with someone who knows me so well that sometimes it, quite frankly, pisses me off. I have reached the point in my life where, like Gilbert says in Eat Pray Love, "I think I deserve something beautiful."

My life is not perfect. Not every day is sunny and sometimes I can be a hateful pain in the ass. Some days I am so bitter about the last 7 months of my life that I become furious with myself..I don't hate myself for feeling the way I do, but I strongly dislike allowing myself to feel such self pity. I make such an effort to find the good in each day that it aggravates me when I struggle with my anger. (I know, sometimes I am too hard on myself. I know, I know...) While Googling quotes from Gilbert's Eat Pray Love, I came across this. I am unsure of when/where she said/wrote it but it seems like something that needs to be included in this post. 

"There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts" (Elizabeth Gilbert).

Because of my situation, I have been granted so many opportunities. Life with cancer could have been a miserable depressing experience. Yes, some days are horrible. Then there are experiences I never would have received without being diagnosed with melanoma. I have met some of the most amazing people all over the world! The scary diagnosis that turned my life upside down is actually the experience that has made me reexamine my life. It has made me question where I want to go, who I want to be. In Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert writes, "So now I have started living my own life. Imperfect & clumsy as it may look, it is resembling me now, thoroughly." My life is one mess. Seriously. They could write a TV series based on the last year of my life. But, I think I am becoming the girl I have wanted to be. I think my life, like Gilbert's, is resembling me. I feel like I have a purpose...

(Gilbert does say though, "I am a better person when I have less on my plate." Boy, I agree there. I know that stress makes me irritable and unkind at times. It is a fault of mine.)

What have your books taught you lately?

Me Time

 

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Every now and then I find it healthy to take a break from the craziness that is my life. Because of the hectic lifestyle I have been living, I have been unable to even think of such a thing. That is going to change now. This past year has beat me down emotionally and physically. To say I am being tested is an understatement. Sometimes I feel like I am being smothered by the constant pressure to just get from one day to the next. Other days I feel like life is just the way it should be. What a roller coaster. 

It takes courage to get from one life experience to the next. I refuse to just float through life. I will get through every battle life throws at me because I make the extra effort to get through it. Self pity is not my thing...at least it is not my thing for extended amounts of time. I will rise above it.  This makes me think of a book I recently read. In Moon Shell Beach, Nancy Thayer writes, "It was like leaving the safety of the shore and swimming into the ocean, hoping it wouldn't take you under, hoping for that phenomenal lift and ride the waves gave, that breathtaking experience nothing else could provide. To throw yourself in wholeheartedly, surrendering to the waves, was always a bit of a risk" (168).

I think it is time for me to take another risk.

Advice From a Frog

"I really do believe that all of you are at the beginning of a wonderful journey.

As you start traveling down the road of life, remember this:

There are never enough comfort stops.

The places you're going to are never on the map.

And once you get that map out, you won't be able to refold it

no matter how smart you are.

So forget the map, roll down the windows, and whenever you can,

pull over and have a picnic with a pig.

And if you can help it,

never fly as cargo."

Well said, Kermit, well said.

Cyber Bullying

I promise you, I did not make this separate blog page simply to bitch about things that cross my mind. I had fully planned on writing a post about my weekend spent with the boyfriend and my sister in Roanoke. However, something was brought to my attention tonight and I need to write about it.

Do you remember the days when Facebook required a college email address in order to create an account? Do you remember when Facebook was fun and provided an easy way to keep in touch? Lately there has been a new favorite hobby for people: Cyber Bullying. We have heard about it for a while now. I am pretty sure most of us can name at least 3 celebrities who have filmed a commercial warning people about the dangers of cyber bullying, etc. Unfortunately it seems to be getting worse. There are various Facebook pages regarding different areas on our little peninsula outing people for certain sexual adventures. Because Facebook only requires people to have an email address, it is simple for anyone to make a page...regardless of what the page is about. I became aware of these pages after a great number of my friends friend requested them.

Here's how it works: You put in the name of the Facebook page (Example-A particular town Cheaters), you can inbox the owner of the site and have them write about someone. Then the site owner writes the name of the person plus whatever adventure they want the internet world to know about. Basically it says, First & Last name slept with First & Last name while dating First & Last name at Name of Location, Name of STD, and a variety of adjectives describing the people involved.

Why does this bother me? They are not talking about me. It is none of my business. Isn't that how we should feel? We all like to turn a blind eye to such inappropriate behavior, right? (Even though it does not stop us from gossiping about it....) What happens when the ten year old girl reads the information that is being said about her? How is she supposed to face her peers at school come September? Talk about the reputation she will have! If we all sit back and say, "I just want to see what the gossip is" and not alert anyone about the seriousness of this, will we be OK when this little girl commits suicide because of the bullying she is receiving? Don't people watch the news? Growing up is difficult enough (coming from a girl who had gum put in her hair  & my pictures destroyed by a girl who didn't like me because her boyfriend asked me to prom....) Why should we sit back and allow for some immature asshole to ruin reputations and self esteems?

Instead of Friend Requesting these horrible pages, shouldn't we report them to Facebook? Shouldn't we TRY to stop the unnecessary bullying? Wouldn't we want someone to protect our children from such behavior?  Report them.

I have.



...I know one thing, I am glad I am not a teenager anymore. I would take gum in my hair any day over the craziness that goes on in the school systems now.